No matter how perfect our childhood was or wasn't, or how well we faced our challenges, we have no control over the world around us. We can dream, plan, prepare, and conquer, but life will happen on our journey and we can never control what that life will bring to us. Life, simply put, is painful. We are born, taught to meet our specific needs in very unique individual ways, and then thrown into a world of people who learned their own unique ways. Because of this, every person on earth is, unfortunately, selfish. From the person who robs people for fun, to the humanitarian who dedicated their life to charities, we are a selfish breed.
Motivation is one of the defining characteristics that separate us from other mammals. What motivates people is desire. We want a better life, we want to help others, we want to change the world, but we do it based on what we individually desire. It doesn't mean the world is just bad people, it simply means people are self-absorbed by nature. Our humanitarian above has probably done more good for the world than most could imagine. They can be genuine, sincere and noble about every intention, but something self-involved led them to their cause. Something that matters, individually, to that humanitarian led them down this road. The moment two individuals, in any circumstance, face opposing desires, depression begins.
Depression, basically, is an emotional state that is marked by feelings of low self-worth or guilt and a reduced ability to enjoy life. Why? Well, simply again, because "life" is pressing you down below the margin of what you consider to be "happy." Depression is focused around negativity in the mental health world. Depression is a negative thought process that leads to diminished interest, worthlessness, lack of focus, and the list goes on. Again, why? I have depression, and during every episode, I found interest in my bed, worth in my self pity, and focus on all my issues. I realized, basically, my brain was simply being blocked by the process, and the process can always be changed.
For most people "joy" will be experienced from the inside out. Filled with desires and dreams they will burst into the world to experience everything they've always wanted to. Learning all about the "normal" emotions people go through at the stages of their life, they began to understand the world around them and trust in themselves and their own guidance. The person who is suffering from depression will start their life with an adolescence filled with emptiness and "emotional instability" that overwhelmed their focus leaving true dreams and desires unembraced. Not understanding the lessons of emotional growth being taught through life, they become closed off, learning very early something is "wrong" with them. "Depressed" individuals start questioning themselves and the world around them. Why? Our process is simply different in our brain, so we need a new route. The "depressed" will experience "joy" from the outside in. Our brain is being "pressed down" by the environment around us. To begin healing, we must first accept what's broken.
I don't feel "joy." There is a block in my brain that just simply prevents it. I can sit for days and feel nothing at all. But, I absolutely can experience joy. I can find the moments in life that brought me what I know joy to be, and choose to be in them. I can choose to be "pressed down" by positive experiences and moments rather than negative ones. By accepting who I am, how my brain works and what I need to "feel," I can work with my depression, instead of fighting against it. Depression is a part of who you are, there's no denying that. But it is only a part of who you are. As you begin the journey to facing your inner demons you must find bridges around the obstacles you face, and new pathways to your desired destination. In a following blog I will discuss specific steps to "Finding New Pathways for Depression."
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