Why does it seem, no matter how hard you try, everybody is "handling life" better than you are? Everybody has problems. They face the same struggles in "Life" you seem to face, but somehow, they get it "all figured out" and you seem to sit here in life, simply "broken." We tell ourselves things such as "if my finances were in order; if I could form better relationships; if I didn't have so many responsibilities; if other's weren't always... then I could keep my emotions under control."
Let me assure you, all those people "living a much better life" than you, don't have "it all figured out." They simply understand themselves better and have learned well how to adapt with society to met their own personal needs. You're not "struggling" in "Life" because you have anxiety; you have anxiety because you're "struggling." Being "different" makes it harder for you to interact with others, so when you're outside of your "comfort zone" it creates anxiety. If you want to push yourself outside of your "comfort zone" in "Life" and not have it lead to increased anxiety, you're going to have to keep a few comforts from "Home" when you go.
You know who you are. You know what you're capable of. You know your history and are the only one holding onto the consequences that came from it. The "best and the brightest" in the world aren't there because it was "handed to them," they've simply learned how to "adapt" better in society and find "their way" in the world. From Abraham Lincoln and Nikola Tesla; to Michelangelo and Mozart; to Ernest Hemingway and Isaac Newton, they all suffered their whole lives with anxiety and still managed to "change the world."
None of these people woke up one day and demanded the world begin "changing" for them... and so it did. They simply began finding ways to make "this world" work for them. When anxiety began taking hold of these people, they utilized the resources around them in their lives, to help them "calm" the struggles they were having with the world so they could focus on their task at hand.
You are not the "cause" of your anxiety. You didn't create it, something else did. Your genetics; your environment; or your feelings about a particular external facture in this world is what is creating your "personal" anxiety. If removing the source of anxiety is not an option for you, your next step has to become about the best way to live with and manage the source of anxiety in your own life.
Nobody expects you to step outside of your house every morning completely naked and ready to start your day. If fact that is very much "frowned upon" and completely illegal in most societies. You get dressed, in the clothes you feel are appropriate to "fit" the moment you are about to experience. You coordinate your attire with what others will be wearing to gain the benefit you hope to seek from your outfit. You "masked" any "flaws" you hope to avoid presenting to your external environment, and you start your day. Living with anxiety is the exact same concept, but instead of clothes, you are "dressing" in "coping skills."
The following post will discuss coping skills, and how they benefit our world with anxiety.
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