One minute your sitting there, minding your own business, dealing with your life, and then something happens outside of your control. You begin to lose focus on the "task at hand." Your thoughts begin racing, your not sure just "what to do next" in the situation. "Life" won't wait just a minute for you though, and give you time to "wrap your head around all this." You begin panicking, questioning your ability to handle your current reality and your biologically designed "defense mechanisms" take control.
Anxiety can paralyze a person's current actions if the person doesn't regain control of themselves. The simple truth is, when "Life" happens, you will either face it head on, or shut down, but you will never be able to interfere with "Life." Life, does it's "own thing" with or without us, so try all you want, but you'll never change that reality.
I have OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder). The more "out of control" my life is, the more my OCD "acts up." I will begin managing every aspect of "my life" to adapt to the uncontrollable changes, and that means everything "in my life." What I will accept and what I won't. What I need done and what I don't. What I need to get myself back under my own control. This, is not always pleasant for "those around me." My needs are logical to me, but present as micromanaging, unnecessary "stress" to others. Their "feelings" towards my "management of life," are however the foundation of my original "pain" here. They are the one telling me that how I am managing my stress in life is "abnormal" or "wrong" when it was never about them in the first place. Anxiety is about how "you" feel about a situation.
If you want to "control" your anxiety, you must be willing to face it, whatever it may be. If your "socially" awkward and introverted, you know that "social settings" are going to "stress you out." If you need "security for clarity," you know that "unstructured dynamics" will "unbalance you." If you accept and simply understand what is creating "your personal" stress in "Life," you gain control of it before "Life" hits you with the "unavoidable."
"Anxiety" can become your greatest "ally" in life. Anxiety lets us know when we are uncomfortable with a particular situation. It's what we allow ourselves to do with the anxiety that becomes a problem for us in life. The truth is, if we face each moment of anxiety in our lives "head on," and deal with it successfully, we become better equipped to handle unavoidable experiences in our lives. This makes us more capable of adapting in multiple situations in the world we've created. "Anxiety" is not your enemy, something in "this world" however, is. Face it, because this is your world too, and you deserve to find your place in it where ever it may be, but "the world" won't change for you. Learn who you are in life, and where you do and do not find "comfort" in it. "Your Place" in this world will calm the anxiety within you, but first, you have to stop running from yourself in "Life," if you ever expect to "find your way."
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